He Isn't Really Looking for the Ideal Woman
Instead, he wants these three things from you...
How much of your time is spent attempting to be the kind of woman that you believe men want? It's a lot, if you're like most women. You put a lot of effort into looking appealing and seductive. Presenting yourself as exciting, intriguing, and global while maintaining a complete lack of dependence. You spend a lot of time demonstrating to him how wonderful you would be for him. What a wonderful future he would have with you at his side...
And it is ineffective. It never succeeds. WHY? Why do you labour so arduously? And if he even recognises you, the guy in your life just takes you for granted?
He's probably immature, isn't that why? He doesn't appreciate something until it's gone. Or perhaps... You've been doing all the work for him, which is why.
He won't value your relationship if he doesn't put effort into it.
Men value items that took effort to acquire the greatest. Give a man a college diploma, and he won't regard it as highly as he would if he had to work hard and dedicate years of study to obtain it. If you give a man the ideal girlfriend, he won't value her as much as he would if he had to court her for weeks before asking her out.
Playing hard to get succeeds for this reason.
However, as you have undoubtedly already seen, playing hard to get has a huge downside. Once he has you in his possession, that tactic no longer works. When guys decide they've won you, something happens. It almost seems like they believe the game is done. Their thoughts are already focused on the upcoming task. What is happening? How can you prevent it from ruining your relationship, though?
Release His Heroic Spirit
The fact that women are innately kind is one of the best things about them. Regarding you, You are there for your guy at all times. You take care of him. You make time for him all the time. Anything for him, you'd do. You never understand that you are truly depriving him of anything in the process. You are eliminating his motivation.
He wants to be your hero, you see. He's not looking to you to be his hero.
Men adore heroes. Countless grown guys still find Marvel comics and superhero movies to be fascinating. Since he was a young child, every guy on Earth has dreamed of becoming the kind of hero who will save the planet while also winning the girl. Most men's 9–5 employment don't allow them to indulge their desire to save the world.
Give Him a Serious Test
They aren't required to cut their corporate ties, show their superman side, and rush into action. They may not be able to save the world. They can still win the girl, though. For a regular guy with a superhuman heart, winning the girl is a worthy goal. Superhuman confidence is required. extraordinary charm extraordinary resistance to pain. Now all he needs to do is locate... A young lady in need of a hero. Have You Got a Hero Yet? Give me a guess You are not that.
You are powerful. You're self-sufficient.
A leaky faucet can be repaired. Driving a stick shift is possible. You are able to look after yourself. You won't ever commit Jerry Maguire's error of seeking a man to complete you. Instead, you can benefit a man much. You are kind. Kind. Loving. being too generous. Finding a partner who will accept everything you have to offer is what you really want. And for that reason, heroes aren't appearing in your life. Because of this, you've actually had a lot of takers. Guys who rob you completely and then abandon you.
References:
Alison Wood Brooks, Francesca Gino, Maurice E. Schweitzer. “Smart People Ask for (My) Advice: Seeking Advice Boosts Perceptions of Competence.” Management Science (2015): Vol. 61, No. 6
Harry's Masculinity Report 2018 https://s3.amazonaws.com/harrys-cdnx-prod/manual/Harry%27s+Masculinity+Report%2C+USA+2018.pdf
Joan F. Goodman (2009) Respect-due and respect-earned: negotiating student–teacher relationships, Ethics and Education, 4:1, 3-17, DOI: 10.1080/17449640902781356